By Derek Dashwood
As one who has a son and four grown daughters, and four grand daughters, the news that healthy expectations create healthy people comes as no news to many who have raised children and grand children to hold sound moral values, be a help not a hindrance, with healthy eating habits.
But it was a steady struggle for a very long time. From the earliest days, it was difficult to ignore the whines for a cola and accept a milk, or pure orange juice. This unhappy adorable little face wanted chips and pop. Spinach and broccoli are not chocolate. There may have been children antique books that dealt with this which I had not seen, but other than Dr. Spock, and our own life examples, we were trying our best.
Well, yes, when you are youngest your taste buds favor sweet over sour. It is as we age, and more so with men, that our tastes tend to more sour. So, I found that my first daughter was a very fussy eater in contrast to her older brother, who more like me, would eat everything put in front of him, although not adverse to let it drool back out if he had had enough, or then blowing if at me with laughter if I kept trying.
But, with my next darling child, an angelic little girl, I was definitely introduced to the age old puzzle for men, even trying to feed her, let alone her middle of the night cries. What do women want? Eating time at lunch became a matter of me coming home to my daughter and her frustrated mother, almost in tears, handing me a spoon and baby food and say you feed her. There, in front of me, was the most darling little angel on earth, beaming at me.
And all around her, on her, her mother, the floor around her-but from the way she was blowing bubbles, apparently none inside her was abundant in strained baby food. We would beam at each other, I would get a slurp and hug and kiss, the spoon putting goo in my hair; shirt will have to be changed.
But what was important that it was lunch time and time for a girl to get some food in her, and dad was there to help. So, forty years ago, with little help from ancient knowledge, I did what these modern studies say to do. Make it playful, keep at it, show you expect this is going to actually happen. and it happens, with lots of fun. And a change of shirt for dad.
A closed little mouth and crossed hands and frown can always be turned around by dad eating some, raising his eyebrows as if he has just tasted ambrosia (it tastes so bad; you must not make a face) cause laughter with all his swooning and smacking sounds. Then the spoon becomes an airplane, roaring and looking for its landing place, oh there it is.
Keep you mouth open and she will too- after tasting and going by her mouth a few times, she is getting curious. When one spoonful is almost in her mouth, steal it. Pop. Her look will say hey, you took my ice cream. So you go through the airplane again, much less time, pop into her mouth. I did not know of any ancient children literature about this: I just sensed what seemed right.
This discussion carries on shortly in the second part of the story, in which you get to know. Did they resent me and turn on her mother and I? Read that and see.
Derek Dashwood now enjoys eating healthy meals and having many a happy get together with his family, who he is very proud of for their loving, honest ways. We have a Teens Talk and Mom's Brain Grows and Men Talk sections at
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
My Child Talks Extremely Loud
By Jason K Johnson
Parents are often dismayed when their child seems to always be shouting, even during a normal conversation. Some actually wonder if their child is hard of hearing and will have the child's hearing tested. Fortunately, it is usually just a basic behavior that needs to be redirected.
First a parent must ask themselves why the child is shouting. Is there a lot of background noise the child is trying to be heard over? Do other people in the household talk loudly? If either of these situations is true, the parent needs to change those things before they can try and enforce an inside voice on their child.
If a television or radio is loud enough that you find yourself raising your voice just to be heard, it is too loud. The child is learning how to use their vocal chords, and if they are trained to use them at a level that allows them to be heard over the television that is what they become accustomed to.
Kids learn from their environment. A noisy environment will produce a loud child. When you want your child's attention, do you shout from another room, or yell downstairs? They will mimic your actions and will do the same when they want your attention. Try walking closer to the child and then saying their name in a medium voice volume. They will most likely respond with same volume.
Parents are in charge of teaching their child what a proper voice volume is. Sending your child to school with poor voice control will most likely lead to issues in the classroom. Teach your child proper voice control from the beginning and help set them up for success.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?
To Download and listen to my FREE audio recordings visit: Free Audio Recordings
Jason Johnson (MSW) has worked with hundreds of toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, Bi-polar, and SEVERE emotional/behavioral issues.
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Parents are often dismayed when their child seems to always be shouting, even during a normal conversation. Some actually wonder if their child is hard of hearing and will have the child's hearing tested. Fortunately, it is usually just a basic behavior that needs to be redirected.
First a parent must ask themselves why the child is shouting. Is there a lot of background noise the child is trying to be heard over? Do other people in the household talk loudly? If either of these situations is true, the parent needs to change those things before they can try and enforce an inside voice on their child.
If a television or radio is loud enough that you find yourself raising your voice just to be heard, it is too loud. The child is learning how to use their vocal chords, and if they are trained to use them at a level that allows them to be heard over the television that is what they become accustomed to.
Kids learn from their environment. A noisy environment will produce a loud child. When you want your child's attention, do you shout from another room, or yell downstairs? They will mimic your actions and will do the same when they want your attention. Try walking closer to the child and then saying their name in a medium voice volume. They will most likely respond with same volume.
Parents are in charge of teaching their child what a proper voice volume is. Sending your child to school with poor voice control will most likely lead to issues in the classroom. Teach your child proper voice control from the beginning and help set them up for success.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?
To Download and listen to my FREE audio recordings visit: Free Audio Recordings
Jason Johnson (MSW) has worked with hundreds of toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, Bi-polar, and SEVERE emotional/behavioral issues.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jason_K_Johnson
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Parenting Tips For Keeping Your Cool and Shouting Less
By Lily Campbell
What makes a good parenting style really is down to the individual personalities of the parents and the children, and their personal circumstances. Although it is not possible to be the perfect mum or dad all the time it is possible to make small changes to become a better parent. Something that many parents would love to achieve is to shout less at their children, be more relaxed with them and have more fun.
Children are experts at triggering a reaction from their parents so it can be hard not to react by shouting sometimes, particularly if there additional stresses going on at the time. There are two approaches which help a lot of people. The first is to imagine that there are strangers watching you interact with your child.
Even if the child is behaving extremely badly, we tend to force ourselves to keep our cool if we are in public where as at home parents are much quicker to shout. Or if you are used to working in a professional environment, put your work mask on and act in the same rational and diplomatic manner as you would in the office. The second approach is to simply turn away and count to ten before responding to your child's behaviour.
It can help to identify the main triggers that lead to you using your temper. For instance, parents are more likely to shout if they are already stressed. So if you find yourself regularly shouting at the children to get their shoes and coats on as you run late for the school run then take steps to become more organised and save time in the mornings, such as making packed lunches the night before and storing all school bags in the same place.
Lastly, remember that you are only human and it is okay to lose your temper sometimes. If you feel that shouting was an over reaction to the situation, apologise to your child. It will not affect your child's view of you as an authority figure to know you are not perfect, and it is a good example to say you are sorry if you know you have behaved wrongly.
Lily has recently had articles published on the subject of boy's fancy dress, on topics such as making your own boy's cowboy costume at home.
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What makes a good parenting style really is down to the individual personalities of the parents and the children, and their personal circumstances. Although it is not possible to be the perfect mum or dad all the time it is possible to make small changes to become a better parent. Something that many parents would love to achieve is to shout less at their children, be more relaxed with them and have more fun.
Children are experts at triggering a reaction from their parents so it can be hard not to react by shouting sometimes, particularly if there additional stresses going on at the time. There are two approaches which help a lot of people. The first is to imagine that there are strangers watching you interact with your child.
Even if the child is behaving extremely badly, we tend to force ourselves to keep our cool if we are in public where as at home parents are much quicker to shout. Or if you are used to working in a professional environment, put your work mask on and act in the same rational and diplomatic manner as you would in the office. The second approach is to simply turn away and count to ten before responding to your child's behaviour.
It can help to identify the main triggers that lead to you using your temper. For instance, parents are more likely to shout if they are already stressed. So if you find yourself regularly shouting at the children to get their shoes and coats on as you run late for the school run then take steps to become more organised and save time in the mornings, such as making packed lunches the night before and storing all school bags in the same place.
Lastly, remember that you are only human and it is okay to lose your temper sometimes. If you feel that shouting was an over reaction to the situation, apologise to your child. It will not affect your child's view of you as an authority figure to know you are not perfect, and it is a good example to say you are sorry if you know you have behaved wrongly.
Lily has recently had articles published on the subject of boy's fancy dress, on topics such as making your own boy's cowboy costume at home.
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Monday, April 12, 2010
I Am Constantly Yelling at My Children
By Jason K Johnson
Are you one of those parents that seems to constantly be shouting at your children? Do you find yourself frustrated because they just will not listen? You are not alone. However, it is possible to communicate with your kids without screaming at them.
How many times have you yelled at your child to stop yelling at a sibling or playmate? Kind of ironic isn't it? We are teaching our children communication skills during every interaction we have with them and others in the family. Constant shouting in a household teaches young children that it is an accepted and effective way to communicate.
There is a simple solution to this problem, lead by example. It sounds a little tough at first, but it works and your home will be much quieter. When it is necessary to correct a bad behavior, it can be successfully done with a few short, simple, calm words.
When your child shouts at you, it is imperative you relax your facial expressions and respond to them in a calm, quiet voice. Do not fuel the shouting by shouting back. People tend to shout when they do not feel like they are being heard.
It is possible to use a calm voice and still manage to get a point across. Simply emphasizing key words that you want to make sure the child hears. When a child is engaged in the conversation, they will hear the emphasis and understand that those things are important to the conversation.
This type of calm, rational communication will help teach your child effective communication skills they will use throughout the rest of their lives.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?
To Download and listen to my FREE audio recordings visit: Free Audio Recordings.
Jason Johnson (MSW) has worked with hundreds of toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, Bi-polar, and SEVERE emotional/behavioral issues.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jason_K_Johnson
Are you one of those parents that seems to constantly be shouting at your children? Do you find yourself frustrated because they just will not listen? You are not alone. However, it is possible to communicate with your kids without screaming at them.
How many times have you yelled at your child to stop yelling at a sibling or playmate? Kind of ironic isn't it? We are teaching our children communication skills during every interaction we have with them and others in the family. Constant shouting in a household teaches young children that it is an accepted and effective way to communicate.
There is a simple solution to this problem, lead by example. It sounds a little tough at first, but it works and your home will be much quieter. When it is necessary to correct a bad behavior, it can be successfully done with a few short, simple, calm words.
When your child shouts at you, it is imperative you relax your facial expressions and respond to them in a calm, quiet voice. Do not fuel the shouting by shouting back. People tend to shout when they do not feel like they are being heard.
It is possible to use a calm voice and still manage to get a point across. Simply emphasizing key words that you want to make sure the child hears. When a child is engaged in the conversation, they will hear the emphasis and understand that those things are important to the conversation.
This type of calm, rational communication will help teach your child effective communication skills they will use throughout the rest of their lives.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?
To Download and listen to my FREE audio recordings visit: Free Audio Recordings.
Jason Johnson (MSW) has worked with hundreds of toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, Bi-polar, and SEVERE emotional/behavioral issues.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jason_K_Johnson
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